Something I've learned...

 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus' – John Gray

To ask a man for support:

1.       Be direct.

2.      Be brief.

3.      Use “would you” or “will you” phrases.

It’s best not to be too indirect, too lengthy, or to employ phrases such as “could you” or “can you.” Let’s look at some examples.

Do say: “Would you empty the trash?”
Don’t say: “This kitchen is a mess; it really stinks. I can’t fit anything else into the trash bag. It needs to be emptied. Could you do it?” (This is too long and uses could.)

Do say: “Would you please put this away for me?”
Don’t say: “I can’t put all of this away.” (This is an indirect message.)

Do say: “Would you bring the groceries in from the car?”
 Don’t say: “I have four bags of groceries left in the car. And I need that food to make dinner. Could you bring them in?” (This is too long, indirect, and uses could.)

Do say: “Would you take us out to dinner tonight?”
Don’t say: “I am too tired to make dinner. We haven’t gone out in a long time. Do you want to go out?” (This is too lengthy and indirect.)

Men are much more willing to say yes if they have the freedom to say no.

A relationship is healthy when both partners have permission to ask for what they want and need, and they both have permission to say no if they choose.

One of the key elements of assertive asking is to remain silent after you have asked for support.

Random Quotes

“It's much easier to become interested in others than it is to convince them to be interested in you” - Andrew Carnegie

Thoughtful words that I've learned

"Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"

"Sharing the truth opens the door of intimacy through which love can enter." - John Gray

"Many couples mistakenly think that their inability to communicate successfully and lovingly means they don't love each other enough. Certainly love has a lot to do with it, but communication skill is a much more important ingredient. Fortunately, it's a learnable skill.” – John Gray

"You Need This Book to Get What You Want"

Just because something was successful before doesn’t necessarily mean it will always be successful. So if your behavior stops working for you, then you need to change the way you behave. The trick is to notice when it stops working. Many people don’t realize that what they do in certain situations has stopped working.

Change, where necessary, means success. Change for the sake of change doesn’t. Being adaptable equals success.

Tony Robbins

No amount of money that will ever make you wealthy.

The only reason to invest: To have income for life without working.

Success in life comes from good judgment and good decision. Good judgment comes from experience, and experience comes from bad judgement.

80% of wealth is psychology; 20% is mechanics.

TJ

Language is only a tool for communication. It does not indicate your standards whether high or low. No matter how good your language is, if u failed to communicate well, u r still a failure.

语言只是个沟通的工具 没有高低级之分 如果没沟通好 你只是个失败者 不管你的语言能力有多好